Help.

[ysobelle]

I have a friend who is, I think, approaching a crisis. If any of you knows or is a drug and alcohol counselor, I need advice right now. I just don't know what to do.


ETA: Put the mask over your own face, remember.

I called my own therapist, who always gives me perspective. She's right. There's nothing I can do right now for my friend. She called again. I told her to go into work tomorrow, but she said she won't. I can only turn off the phone, try to sleep, and deal with her when she's sober again. She knows I love her, at least.

Comments

[autumnyte.livejournal.com]

Not a drug counselor, but I have been down this road many, many times with my brother. Is there anything I can do to help you?

[ysobelle.livejournal.com]

I don't know. She just called again, and I finally stopped pretending nothing was wrong. It was her sixth or seventh call, repeating herself. I don't know what she's taking or drinking. I told her how worried I am, and asked her if she had anyone she could talk to who could help. She's refusing to go in tomorrow, so I'm going to assume she'll be fired. Then...I have no idea what happens next.

[autumnyte.livejournal.com]

One thing I've learned over the years is that it's damn near impossible to get someone help with drugs & alcohol unless they're ready for it. I had to watch my brother become homeless, hospitalized, escape from numerous rehabs, basically hit rock bottom before he was willing to kick heroin. I don't say this to be discouraging, but just to brace you for the fact that there might not be anything you *can* do at this point.

I know how fucking awful that is. *hugs*

[ysobelle.livejournal.com]

I know. She insists she's fine. I told her we all know she's not. I don't know what the right or the wrong thing to say might be. I know she listens to me, but I don't know how far that goes. Someone with experience would know exactly what to make of this situation-- but I'm not that person.

And I also know this will make life hell at work.

[dansr.livejournal.com]

HUGS

Where? What state/city? Let me know...

[ysobelle.livejournal.com]

See above. She's in Philly.

[regalpewter.livejournal.com]

The worst part is letting them hit the bottom. We are programmed to help and the person's disease is not going to make them seek help until they are their at their bottom. It is hell to go through, but it is necessary to get them to begin the healing process. You may wish to seek help for your feelings with your counselor or Al-anon and Narc-anon have programs for those around such situations.
YIS,
WRI

[brihanon.livejournal.com]

You didn't cause it, you can't cure it and you can't control it. This is my montra. I am a member of Al-anon. It is not counseling it is a group of people who know what you have been through, what you are going through. Think about it. you may even network for Mayfaire Moon.

[mirroreyes.livejournal.com]

sorry to hear.

huge hugs.


i am going to pass out in the corner now... i am quite sick.
hugs

[elionwyr.livejournal.com]

What everyone else has said.
And so many kudos to you for reaching for your own mask!

I hope your friend weathers this storm intact. *love*