I love my therapist.

[ysobelle]

She actually told me today that I'm not allowed to talk to my mom any more about my business. What was the catalyst to this? Mom actually said-- I fucking kid you not-- that my business is a hobby, and it's time I got a real job.

Fuck you. That's it. Fuck you. Don't ever again give me the bullshit about how you "support me." I'm so incredibly disappointed. Pissed and disappointed.

I'm gonna watch the last of Season Two, maybe a bit of Three, maybe nap, and then work my ass off on my "hobby" for twelve hours or so. "Hobby." Fuck you.

Comments

[crystalsage.livejournal.com]

Yay for your therapist. Your mom's input is toxic to your well being...keeping her at arm's length for a while is probably a very good thing.

[ysobelle.livejournal.com]

I know. It's hard, cos we usually get on well. But this...no way. I'm done.

[ibukij.livejournal.com]

yea it seems like your mom is stuck in
the mindset that art can't be a real job.
Some people are like that, best to leave her out
of it while you follow your bliss.
Good things will come your way lovely!

[ysobelle.livejournal.com]

I was discussing this with Lars-- he essentially said some parents never really learn to deal with having kids who are artists. It's...true, and it's weird. I'm not just playing the Bohemienne, I AM a Bohemienne.

Only nix on the tuberculosis, okay?

[donnaricci.livejournal.com]

According to the IRS and to me, the difference between a hobby and profession is the manner in which it is treated.

I have never known you to treat any situation or opportunity with a customer with anything other than professional respect and diligence.

Mothers are who they are, and were simply raised at a time when things were different. We've come so far as a society and as consumers in these 30 years and she simply doesn't have the knowledge to speak of such matters.

I've been taking current businesses and stepping them up a notch, helping them help themselves. If you want, I will gladly loan myself up to you for this.

[ysobelle.livejournal.com]

I will just as gladly take you up on that. I'm open to any ideas.

[dansr.livejournal.com]

Will call you later.

It's your lively hood, it's your life's blood, and it's your living. It may seem like a hobby to some, but they don't live your life. Listen to your therapist.

Love you.

[hederaivy.livejournal.com]

Isn't costuming what you went to school for? If so, how can she think it's a hobby?
Coco Chanel did really well with her "hobby". You're going to kick ass, too.

*rolls eyes*

[surlywench.livejournal.com]

is she doing the Hobby = non sustaining income and Real Job = sustaining income thing? like, b/c you aren't magically paying for *everything* yourself by now, it's "only a hobby"?

my mom does that too.

i can't *wait* to find out her reaction when she finds out i've gone to school for cosmetology. of course, i'm not planning on telling her until after i've graduated and gotten my license and am working in the field. but we're aware that my mom wears her Crazy pretty much on the outside O_o.

mothers are insane. we just have to promise NOT to turn into ours.

[ysobelle.livejournal.com]

Hey-- at least I have a check for you, though!

bring your machine tonight. We'll see if we can beat it into submission. Oh, and my sketchbook!

[surlywench.livejournal.com]

i really think it's got to do with the sustained heat. it's fine today. i'm seriously too tired to bother with packing it up and then having to unload it and then repeat the process when i get home at 1am.

also, i need to find the correct bobbins for it. they don't carry them here at my joanne's, i've just got to figure it out via their website or something. but the bobbin issue is sorta key to productivity.

[snugglyevil.livejournal.com]

It's to the point of "what your mother doesnt know cant hurt you". I agree with R about no business talk with the mom. I also hope you can get an account on your own that your mom can not access. It's your life and your business. She's allowed to have her opinions but she needs to let you succeed on your own without inserting her opinions.

*hugs*

Oh hell no.

[irishcoyote.livejournal.com]

She didn't.

And you're just not the type to tell your mother "go fuck yourself" and hang up when the situation warrants.

I've always found that fairly theraputic, but I understand you may not be so crass.
:)

Re: Oh hell no.

[ysobelle.livejournal.com]

You know what, though? That's pretty much exactly what I did do. Except I believe the words I used were, "How fucking dare you?" Then I hung up.